“Female Atheists Don’t Exist”

Hi my adorable friends!

Just today I was enjoying the blog series “Speaking Out Against Hate Directed at Women” from SkepChicks. It is full of interesting words from well known atheists and skeptics. Being a woman, I very much care about hate directed toward my gender. Only an hour later I myself became subject to sexism. This lovely comment was left the about section of my blog–

I don’t believe female atheists exist. Your blog is basic and obviously popular just because you put a picture of your face, your age and the fact that you are female. Try doing it without that and see how far you get. –Charlie Red, http://www.angryhipster.com

First I felt pure confusion.  How could a female atheist not exist? Why would a lack of faith in god have anything to do with whether or not I have a vagina?  I am an atheist. I also have a vagina.  I suppose Charlie doesn’t believe in me, just like I don’t believe in god.  I feel that I offer a little more physical evidence than god, but we’re all entitled to our own opinions. Though, as  Niel deGrasse Tyson says, “Facts are true whether or not you believe them.”

Next, I thought, “Hey, that’s cool. He called my blog popular!”

Next, I thought about that the word “basic” is a good way to describe my blog, and I’m proud of that.  I don’t try to write long, drawn out arguments against god. I’m not a scientific scholar.  I don’t claim to write an intellectual blog.  This blog is a celebration of life and being proud to be who we are. I am proud to be a woman. I am proud of my face. I am proud of my age.

I started this blog because I wanted to seek out a community for fellow female atheists–and realized quickly that I didn’t actually care if people were male or female or something in between. Mostly I cared about connecting with fellow non-religious folk who are also living happy, well adjusted, normal lives.

I have no doubt that I would be less successful in creating this community if I didn’t include my age, face, and gender. Then it would just be boring.  I’m interested  in making sense of life and learning about others lives.  It’s much harder connect with someone who is faceless, nameless, and personality-less.  So Charlie, I couldn’t be more happy with my blog and its success. Thanks for stopping by.

Proud to be me

Stay Adorable,



22 thoughts on ““Female Atheists Don’t Exist”

  1. Hey, never been here before, but I saw a link to your blog and just wanted to let you know that I am a female atheist to. Whats wrong with these people?

  2. I, too, have never read your blog before and am a fellow female atheist. Although obviously sexism sucks, he has a point. I have found very few females who are truly atheists. Most are uncomfortable with the idea of believing in nothing at all. It’s something about the role we play as females–the role that is drilled into us from the very beginning–and some people are able to shake those subconscious preachings, while others are not. You also have to realize that a large percentage of females are fucking morons.. and like it or not, they make the intelligent females, who think for themselves, look bad as well…
    I know it sucks, but it’s the truth. Sexism exists, but it doesn’t exist entirely without reason. On the bright side, intelligent people (i.e. people disparate the douche who commented on your blog) will value those who think for themselves, regardless of gender.

    • I’m curious what you mean by few females being “truly atheists”? I mean I get it but I think there is some faux evopsych going on there. Btw, I’m not having a go, I am genuinely curious.

      However, from a Catholic experience, there are so many more women in the church than men, even though the women get the far rawer deal overall. Yet they stay. I see it as something akin to spousal abuse/stockholm syndrome stuff.

      Sexism sucks but I worry that women are not being seen as legitimate atheists within their own atheist community and that is quite bad. Men dominate in all areas of society and this unfortunately is no different. Which is a shame.

      • I am not meaning to question the sincerity of those who claim to be atheists. However, those who actually claim to be atheists are few and far between, which makes it seem like female atheists do not exist. A lot of my friends by most definitions would fit the title of atheist, but when you ask them, they will dance around the term until they eventually admit that they are uncomfortable with believing in nothing at all. Now my reasoning that I explained above is just my own theory–that girls are sort of taught to be..well..submissive…and psychologically, that involves not trusting yourself, needing someone to lean on, being the damsel in distress, the “princess” waiting on prince charming, etc etc…while these things usually apply to relationships with men, I think they can just as easily apply to a relationship with God…

    • The sexism you show towards your own gender saddens me. A large percentage of BOTH genders is moronic – perhaps we’re stupid in different ways, but I really don’t think that being female and raised in the patriarchy makes you more likely to be stupid than if you’re male. Also, sexism DOES exist without reason. There’s no good reason to discriminate against someone of the other gender or to make assumptions about that person based on stereotypes.

      You seem to be suffering from special snowflake syndrome – because you think about women in terms of the stereotypes you’ve been taught, you think your intelligence and rationality makes you different from all the other crazy bitchy ladies out there. Fortunately, I don’t think you’re as unique as all that.

  3. Hi, M.C.
    I found your blog thru Reddit. I think his statement was supposed to be a takeoff of the old and vulgar Internet meme that ‘there are no girls on the internet.’ If you are not aware of it, it can be found here (http://i.imgur.com/SRtBV.png). If you are aware of it and found it too distasteful to mention on your blog, I’m sorry for the link.
    Best wishes, and keep up with the blog.

  4. For those of us who are rooted in reason, you’re nothing but an inspiration. And the fact that you’re an attractive female is only icing on the cake. I’d love anyone with your ideals, male or female, or anything in between. 🙂

  5. what i think he failed to understand is that, as a female your vagina (and womb and other bits) is god, it creates life and most men worship them

  6. As another mythical female atheist, HELLO! *waves* I find his logic that your blog is only popular because you have a face (or are willing to show it), are female and are not decrepid to be a bit odd. I mean, you write well and you share interesting topics. Surely that has got to count for something? Plus you’re super upbeat and peppy which I like! 😀

    I just don’t get the point of his comment. It isn’t constructive or useful. It just states some facts that are sort of compliments but sort of not and then heads back into the blogosphere.

    I include my face and name (thought not my age because well…it never occured to me that that would be important) because I remember reading somewhere that people warm to bloggers who share that sort of stuff more than those who remain anonymous. I didn’t necessarily do it to become popular, just to have a more genuine experience with my readers.

    Good for you for calling this person out on what they said and don’t ever change! xx

  7. Um. This is from a guy who said this about the many recent random shootings in America.

    “I think there is a government conspiracy from anti gun people. They are somehow turning these people to kill others so they can move forward an agenda to take away our guns and instill full military and police control.

    The end of freedom is nigh.”

    I think you can safely continue going about your business.

    • Seriously. This guy seems to have more than a few screws loose.

      By the way, here’s another non-existent female atheist checking in. If you’re keeping count, you can add my mother, sister, at least five or six of my friends, and four cousins to your tally as well.

  8. I guess the extreme points of feminism lead men to believe, that whenever a woman defines herself as something more than just a ‘possessor of a vagina’, it is bound to be questioned, as it will consequently cause their ‘authority’ to be questioned. Since when is atheism associated with sexism? I personally don’t think, that equality between sexes exists in any religion.
    Take care, it was nice to stop by.

  9. I’d laugh if it wasn’t so sad. Anyone can be an Atheist. What makes you one isn’t what’s between your legs. Anyways, I love your love and look forward to reading more in the future. Oh and last I checked I had a vagina and was an Atheist. I still am trying to figure out how we managed to have similar blog names but oh wells.

  10. I think a big part of the sexism in the atheist community recently is the controversy that is being generated by Skepchick and the people who disagree with them. I’ve been in the atheist/skeptic community for a while and the sexism has been pretty rare, from what I’ve seen, until the “elevatorgate” incident and the debates that sprang from it.

    After that, angry people who are growing sick of the debates are lashing out at all female atheists who assume that all women are part of the extremest fringe. Just keep being proud and rational about all this and it should pass. But that’s just my opinion. I’d love to hear from you and the other women visiting this blog.

  11. If you’re well-read on the existing evidence of early human civilizations (Venus figures and the like) and a woman….the assumption is that you have rejected patriarchal religions and adopted a “feminist” goddess as your primary spiritual figure. While I believe each person is entitled to experience, well, their experience, I have found the most true for me (however uncomfortable) to be the dirty/honest science of human existence (big bang, blah, blah, blah). Yes, once we die, we cease to exist. This life is all we get.

    I feel that atheism is empowering to women. When you let go of “value” on certain behaviors/impulses/emotions based on the value religion places on women (virginity for starters….), you are allowing yourself the true human experience. It’s akin to when you “stop caring what other people think of you,” but on a broader level.

  12. I don’t think he explained himself well enough. This goes back to the argument ”there are no girls on the internet”. If he explained thoroughly enough he would have said the second you reveal yourself as female on the internet you unknowingly give up your gender and become an object for men to ogle. You might be a well spoken individual with pure intention behind you but to him the fact that people know you are female will garner you more support from the masses (male populace) than your ideas alone. His sensationalist comments aside, female atheists exist.

    For clarification these are not my beliefs, I thought you would like a better explanation of what he meant. Feel free to contact me if any questions arise, I harbor no ill will, only information.

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