Advice to a Younger Me

As a disclaimer, as I write this blog post to myself about some wisdom I’ve gained over the years, I have a stomach full of macaroni and cheese I asked my parents to mail. So I’ve grown up some, but not enough to abandon the disgustingly artificial delight of mac and cheese. That just seemed like a relevant fact. But I write on.

Someone recently asked me, if I could give a piece of advice to my 15 or 16 year old self, what would it be?

Now, there were not nearly enough rules assigned to this hypothetical. I am going to assume my 15 year old self finds her 20 year old self giving her advice to be perfectly normal. I wasn’t sure how much time I had either. If it’s like, a drop a line in her sub-conscious type thing, the one liner is:

 Don’t believe everything people tell you, even if they seem really smart, convincing, and convicted.  

Now, if I get to ya know, take her out to a nice dinner and have a good conversation, I would say something  more along the lines of this:

Don’t believe that your faith makes you any more moral than someone without faith or with faith in another god.  Don’t think that it makes you better and don’t think that it makes you happier. Just because it seems like all the good people you know are good god loving Christians, don’t assume there aren’t plenty of amazing non-Christians out there. Take time to really really put yourself in the shoes of other people and other perspectives.  When you are searching and searching for the right answer, instead of trying to forget about it, settle, push it away, or tell yourself that having unanswered questions is part of your relationship with god, just try to think of life from the atheists perspective. Not from the biased perspective your church and friends and media are telling you about atheists, but as objectively as you can. And even if it’s uncomfortable keep trying. You are not better than anyone because of your faith. And I know you know that, but take a second look at your actions and beliefs. Just because someone says what you’re doing is selfless and good doesn’t mean it is.  Be more objective, seek more answers outside of Christianity, and always wear your seat-belt.

What would you say to a younger you?

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3 thoughts on “Advice to a Younger Me

  1. My advice to my younger self is this: “Don’t be such a push-over!”

    When I was growing up, I was too kind to say much of anything about things I disagreed with. I grew up in the Lutheran church, and at the time, rarely questioned things. When I was an adolescent, I would question my pastor and youth leader about serious topics and just receive round-about answers. I would just go along with it. When I got to college, I thought more deeply about it all, and realized that I don’t believe anything about what I was told was “true” according to Christianity. I left the church when I was in college, and have been happier ever since.

    • I was also raised in the Lutheran church. My parents are still members of the church, though it’s sad to see that a place that used to make them happy is mostly turned into a community of pro lifers, creationism, and being anti-gay marriage. My parents are none of those things and the church doesn’t make it easy for them after having been members for 25 years. It just makes me dislike religion more.

      • My parents, and siblings are still members, but thankfully they are open to understanding other people’s views. I have been an atheist for a number of years now, but still haven’t told my family. I do think they have a good idea that I’m not part of the church anymore, or at least, if they don’t know, they don’t mind it. We really don’t discuss religion or politics much in my family. They know I’m the most liberal one, and they’re fine with it. Even though they’re still religious, and for the most part keep it to themselves, I still dislike the idea of it all. I wish they would realize the problems within religion and leave, but it’s their choice. I cannot force them to leave if they don’t want to.

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