A Very Atheist Wedding

Lately, my mind has been on wedding wedding wedding! We’ve been engaged for a year, but because I’ve been travelling, we haven’t done much planning (except for my momentary panic attack in which I got an elopement in Vegas half way planned…) Now that things have settled down, we are planning a nice, quaint, relaxed, fun, and special day (totally god free!).

I am really trying to avoid a lot of the wedding consumerism and culture. I hate so much of the etiquette and expectations that come along with it. Looking for venues and finding about things like “cake cutting fees” is just absurd to me. That being said…I do find myself getting so excited about finding a beautiful venue and wedding dress shopping. On Thursday we’re going to tour a historic mansion as a possible venue!! I’ve been thinking about it so much. I’m really trying to enjoy the process and not become stressed out about it. No reason to!

Around here, people have definitely been shocked when they find out I’m not getting married in a Catholic church and having the reception at a country club. Even some people who know I’m atheist thing I should be getting married in a church. Our wedding is going to have a lot of personality. I like that I don’t have to confine it to the rules of a religion. I took a theology course last semester that had a segment on marriage. The professor was extremely opposed to any part of a ceremony that deviates from the catholic instructions. The articles I had to read were so insanely judgmental! It drove me nuts that the focus of the wedding was not on the unique and special relationship between the couple and their decision to devote their lives to each other. As an aside, why would I worship a god who had some problem with me writing my own vows or playing meaningful music at my wedding? I realize that not all religions/people feel that way– but my issues with the varieties of “god” is another issue.

In conclusion, my feelings are this: People can get married however they damn well please. I’m just thankful for the flexible and fun wedding Patrick and I are planning. Also, pre-marriage counseling sounds so awful to me, so yay for dodging that bullet!

stay adorable, M.C.

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